Come on, girl, talk to him. Get his name. Wait, what? Talk to him already! Get to know him! How come? Oooh, I see now. And you desire to be beside him, right? You know what this means? You have a crush on that guy. Hey, it happens to the rest of us. Perhaps you guys had your eye on that girl who looks like an angel with red hair, or a simple girl with several pimples. Everyone has a crush on at least one person. But in a way, we want to be loved by our beloved. But what exactly is a crush anyway?
Well, not just adolescents actually. Even adults have that but they probably use a different word for it because crush sounds a little immature. Wait a minute. So how could you have strong feelings for him? You just like him for his looks or some special skill he does, right? Now, a crush is just developing feelings for someone. For instance, I have a friend and a classmate of mine. We chat about things, we help each other out, we text each other.
I like her personality. But then, for no particular reason, I think about her and how lovely she is no matter how hard I try to stop. One downside is that you might not stop thinking about that person. I could remember last summer — I had a crush on girl and we spent the last day of our summer classes just walking around UST, talking to each other.
Anyway, what you want is the emotional connection. You want to be with that person you like because you want them to like you back as well. Well, that actually is alright when the time and the situation between you two are right. You log in to your Facebook and you see a shared video from your tita about how the COVID vaccines are bioengineered to turn us into zombies or how the earth is actually flat.
Disinformation has permeated every facet of our lives. How do we talk to people who fall prey to the extensive and strategic machinery of disinformation campaigns? Do we simply block, unfriend, move on, and never speak to them again? Or should we still engage in the hopes of turning things around?
Good riddance , I say after. At first, this purging of my social media space felt satisfying, cathartic even. It made my timeline neat, reflecting only what I wanted to see and hear. Here comes the necessity to burst this bubble and, as Gen Zs say, touch some grass. This gives us an opportunity to understand how the system works against its users and gain an overview of how we can combat it, and perhaps attempt to effectively and meaningfully engage with people who have opposing views.
It is very easy to be preachy on social media. When it comes to communicating our viewpoints, especially with extremely sociopolitically-charged topics such as the elections, vaccines, and yes, even human rights, there is the tendency to be didactic and to simplistically dismiss what the other person is saying. This practice derails conversations and may even be counterproductive to what we are trying to achieve.
We can try being open to their opinions, even if we often find them to be unfounded and unreliable. When people come from a place of condescension with Messianic complex in educating people who are misinformed, we enable this narrative of an elitist syndrome and drive them further to consume content that they relate to the most.
The battle in this era of post-truth is not only about facts per se but more about how we can compellingly make people care through narratives. After listening to them and finding common ground, we must then contextualize this to their everyday experiences, using language that is not from the ivory towers of academia and elitism.
I first encountered the concept of Truth Sandwich in a class in my freshman year. Basically, it is a method by which one counters the lie without amplifying and giving undue publicity to the lie you are trying to refute. It follows three easy steps to counter fake news: state what is true, refute the lie, and then repeat the truth.
Its problem takes its roots from the massive amount of propaganda and carefully orchestrated, targeted by operators. Behind the madness is an invisible machine: industrial in its scope and organization, strategic in its outlook and expertise, and exploitative in its morality and ethics.
Our individual efforts will definitely go a long way in continuing our fight against the extensive network of disinformation. However, this does not mean that we fail to acknowledge how this problem is systemic in nature, and thus also requires systemic reforms. Their perception may be real, but the truth must always prevail. With the throne in opulent display and deceitful regalia from ear to ear, the kingmaker and other narrators of history sit before us to recount the truth of the past from within their eyes in this documentary by Lauren Greenfield.
The Kingmaker starts off with somber yet contempt-driven mu s ic that traverses the outskirts of Manila to a sidelong view of Imelda Marcos in her private car. After stopping at a red light, kids started crowding around her window due to the P50 paper bills she was willingly giving away to the distressed; her voice resonating the somber expression on her face from seeing the frantic children. Only tell your best friends--the friends you can trust the most.
You have taken a new and deep interest in a subject that you know your crush is interested in, like photography or rock climbing. Pay attention to your internal reaction when someone brings your crush up in conversation.
Often, when you have a crush, you will feel excited when your crush gets brought up in conversation. If someone mentions your crush in passing do you: Feel excited? Suddenly get that feeling like a bunch of butterflies are flying around your stomach? Feel like your heart might leap out of your chest? Blush and giggle? Get tongue-tied and flustered? If any of these things happen, you have a crush on someone. Think about your daydreams. There is a difference between thinking about someone and daydreaming about someone.
Daydreaming is when you fantasize about things that you want to happen. People who have crushes on other people tend to daydream about their crushes a lot. If you daydream about that certain someone and imagine you two going on adventures together, holding hands, kissing, or anything romantic like that, you most likely have a crush on that person.
Notice if things remind you of your potential crush. Being reminded of that special someone when listing to a song, watching a movie, or reading a book is a definite sign that you have a crush. If you watch a movie like Titanic and envision you and your special someone as Jack and Rose, you have a crush.
If you read Romeo and Juliet and immediately identify with the hopelessly deep love of the main characters, you have a crush. Consider your thoughts while reading this article. While reading this, has there been one specific person on your mind while reading this article? If you answer yes, it means you most likely have a crush on that person.
Maria Avgitidis. Show up on time and be present. Avoid taking out your phone while on the date. You should also remember to always be yourself. It may sound basic, but it's important. Not Helpful 10 Helpful Let the conversation flow organically as you get to know them. Ask them about their plans for the weekend or how they plan on spending their summer.
Consider asking questions about their lifestyle and values as well. I have had a major crush on someone for 3 years, and then my friend said she likes him, too. Everyone says that my friend and my crush belong together, not me and my crush. What do I do? I feel suicidal.
You need to keep yourself safe, first and foremost - feeling suicidal is a warning sign that you may have low self-esteem or a mental health issue. It's understandably painful to think of your crush with someone else, but rejection doesn't determine your worth and just because people are saying your friend would be perfect with your crush doesn't mean you're undesirable or lesser than your friend.
Talk to your friend about your feelings for your crush, and make it clear that people saying this makes you feel bad about yourself and you'd like it to stop. If your friend seems dismissive or people are refusing to listen to you, it might be better to spend time with other people.
You deserve people who will treat you well, whether they're friends, crushes, or otherwise. Not Helpful 45 Helpful I have a crush on a guy, but my best friend likes me a lot and I don't want to hurt him. If you don't have feelings for your friend or you don't think a relationship there is a good idea, then your friend needs to learn that it won't work out.
Staying single just because you pity your friend — or worse, dating the friend out of pity — will just make it more painful in the long run. Not Helpful Helpful My crush has friends that are boys. Does that mean she will go for them and not me? Think about it - do you go after every girl you spend time with?
Chances are, the answer is no. You're most likely just grappling with jealousy, which is completely normal when you have a crush nobody wants their crush to like someone else! While it's possible she could be crushing on one of her friends , keep in mind that people can be friends with someone of another gender and not have a crush on them.
Not Helpful 25 Helpful I like to know who other people have a crush on, is it possible to figure out who someone has a crush on without having them tell you? Pay attention to the people they talk about, and watch where their eyes go. It may sound kind of creepy and stalker-ish, but that's what you're signing up for.
You can have more than one crush. If you can't decide which to pursue, consider going for the more recent crush. After all, if you were obsessed with the first one, you probably wouldn't have noticed the second. Try to get into the conversation he is having with his friends. Befriend his friends first, especially if they are easier to approach. Help him in every way you can with small favors and projects.
I'm terrified about talking to my crush, and whenever I do, I feel stupid. Just be natural about it. If you say something stupid, don't be afraid to say "Sorry.
I'm just nervous. How can I tell the difference between a really big friend crush or a romantic crush?? How do you feel about him? Do you want to be his best friend or more than a friend? Ultimately, it comes down to one question -- do you want to date him, or just hang out?
Dating involves commitment, physical intimacy, and privacy. If this sounds daunting or undesirable, it is just a friend crush. Not Helpful 98 Helpful Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered.
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Helpful 92 Not Helpful 5. Don't express your feelings to your crush quickly! If you come on too strong or are too fast to tell them you like them, they may be creeped out. Helpful 72 Not Helpful 7. If you have a crush on someone, you have the choice to tell them or keep it a secret. The nonsexual or nonromantic desire to be in a relationship with someone.
Friendships, for example, are often platonic. This describes someone who experiences romantic attraction towards people of many, but not necessarily all, gender identities.
This describes attraction toward those who require caretaking, such as a child, pet, or loved one. For some, queerplatonic relationships fall somewhere between friendship and a romantic relationship. However, this varies from person to person, relationship to relationship. This attraction takes the form of the desire for intimately physical or sexual contact with someone.
This describes those who are generally well-liked by the majority. Subjective physical attraction is often viewed as physical chemistry that exists in a given relationship, connection, or interaction. Subjective sexual attraction is often viewed as sexual chemistry that exists in a given relationship, connection, or interaction.
The desire for a strong, nonromantic relationship that often includes elements of emotional depth or intimacy. Also known as a queerplatonic partner, zucchinis are people engaged in queerplatonic relationships. Most of us have had the experience of feeling something toward someone but having a hard time identifying what exactly the feeling is. Am I attracted to them physically? Do I admire their personality or intelligence? Do I have the desire to be romantic or sexual with them?
Attraction can be confusing and takes time to understand.
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